Every time I post a story about Norah, my five-year-old, someone always writes this in the comments: “This will be a great story to tell her future husband!” There seems to be a long American tradition of parents telling a child’s potential suitor a collection of embarrassing anecdotes about their child. I think there are three overall goals being accomplished here:
A. Embarrassment: Let’s admit it... embarrassing a grown child sounds like a lot of fun.
B. Revenge: I don’t know about your kids, but my kids have been embarrassing me for years. This sounds like an awesome opportunity to get back at Norah for all the times she walked into the living room naked when we had guests.
C. Characterization: There will be a time when Norah’s future partner will know her better than anyone else. But that won’t be until after years of marriage. Before the wedding, I will know her best, and telling a potential suitor all the gritty details of Norah’s childhood sounds like a great way to let this person know what they are about to get themselves into. It also might scare them off, which sounds awesome if I think the person is an a-hole.
One of Norah’s favorite jokes is to stick her face next to someone’s butt, take a sniff, and say, “Your farts smell like Pop tarts.”
Norah refused to wipe her own butt until the age of… (Still working on that one).
I once caught Norah and her older brother having a sword fight. Norah was wielding a rubber ducky and Tristan was wielding his penis.
Norah was essentially a nudist between the ages of 2 to… (Still working on that one, also).
One time Norah walked into my bedroom wearing nothing but a Hello Kitty blanket wrapped around her neck like a cape. Then she started singing this song: “I wear my penis outside my clothes… la la la… and show it to every one… la la la.”
When Norah was four, she threw a huge fit at a gas station because I wouldn’t buy her a condom from a bathroom vending machine. Her argument, “I just wanted one balloon!”
Norah never seems to know what she wants, and once I figure out what she wants, she doesn’t want it anymore. (I know this isn’t an anecdote, but it seems like something a future partner really should know.)
Norah’s first crush was on a boy who, most days, wore a Link costume.
Once I got really frustrated with Norah, I can’t recall what for, and put her in her room. Once I went in to check on her, she gave me a the sweetest hug and said, “I’m sorwy daddy. I love you.” My heart melted and I ended up giving her a cookie. Long story short, the girl has powers.
What are some of the things you plan to tell your child’s fiancé?
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