I knew having one baby would change everything in my life. Then we ended up with two babies and I knew things would be even more complicated than I initially thought. Would I have time to keep up with friends? Would I be able to go back to work? Would I even have time to sleep? (Oh my God, I NEED sleep to function!) Who knows! Turns out, it's apparently not that difficult to juggle everything. But then again, I could just have some very understanding friends.
Here's how having babies changed my life and relationships and the things I desperately want to tell my friends to try to make up for how bad of a friend I've been these past few months - maybe longer since I was a lazy bumpkin toward the end of my pregnancy!
1. I'm physically exhausted. You probably couldn't have guessed, but babies are exhausting. Sometimes they sleep through the night. Sometimes they are up literally all night. And then they have the nerve to require nearly constant care and supervision throughout the day.
2. I'm emotionally exhausted. Sure, blame it on the hormones that supposedly should be getting back to normal by this time. I blame it on the clingy, needy little babies I care for 24/7 along with the husband that I need to keep up a relationship with. A full day of sleep, a month of alone time with my Kindle and some peace and quiet may be enough to re-charge me.
3. My brain is mush. I don't know what day it is. Sometimes I don't even know what month it is. I do, however, know all words to all of the songs on the babies' toys and when they last pooped down to the minute. Having an intellectual conversation with me probably won't happen.
4. I have no idea what's going on in the world. I'm out of tune with reality and couldn't tell you what's going on within my own family let alone current events, celebrity gossip, or anything that has not happened within my house for the life of me. I try really hard to keep up in a conversation that does not relate to babies but I usually fail. Talk to me about anything baby related though and we're good.
5. I really really really do want to spend time with you. We could go out to dinner, play Mario Kart at your house, go shopping, do whatever it is that we used to do... BUT it's so.much.work. It's much easier to stay home for the large majority of the time where I have all of the required baby-caring-for items within reach. Changing a diaper on top of a hot-tub cover on a porch in the middle of the blazing sun is not preferable, but I can try to make it work (and I have!). Trying to get baby to nap in a weird environment without LOTS of crying beforehand? Nope. Nope nope nope.
6. My babies cry. They cry a lot sometimes. And loudly. Taking babies out in public just isn't at the top of my to-do list. At home, I can let them cry and it doesn't bother a single person - you know, since I'm immune to their fussing at this point. You, however, are not and the crying will get to you! It will draw a lot of dirty looks and maybe some rude comments, too.
7. Spur-of-the-moment does not exist. My life revolves around nap times and feeding. I'm pretty much on a 3-hour timed cycle that repeats over and over again. I can plan around this cycle if we have set plans and times but I refuse to risk nap time and fussy babies for last minute plans.
8. I miss you! Being home alone with babies is exhausting, fun, relaxing, irritating, hilarious and lonely. Even though I have 2 little gentlemen with me at all times, I'm still lonely and I miss you and your adult interaction and conversations!
9. I want to be with my babies. I don't want someone to baby sit them so we can go out or so I can have time away from them. They're cool little dudes and I want them with me. Sure, it's cumbersome and tiring now but it will get better and they will probably even get cooler and more hilarious than they already are.
10. I abso-freaking-lutely cannot wait for you to have your own kids. I want to hug them and squeeze them and call them my squishy. I want to buy them things and buy you things and give you unsolicited advice. I want to cook for you and clean your house while your super preggy and uncomfortable or after you have your probably-adorable bundle of joy. I really hope you have twins - it's not a curse! Best of all, I want to go through all the fun parts of having babies again but without the experience of pregnancy. Oh, and I get to send baby home with you while I get to sleep at night!
Nicole is a part-time blogger, a wife, and a stay-at-home mom to 6 month old twin boys. When she isn’t busy blogging, hanging out with her family, or attempting to re-create Pinterest recipes, she works as a Veterinary Nurse in York, Pennsylvania. Her favorite topics to blog about are food, cooking, and all things twin and baby related. You can read more about her domestic adventures on www.nikkieandbabies.blogspot.com.
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